Remove The Rose Colored Glasses

Find the good in everyone, not by any means in this post am I saying that everyone is awful and no-one is true. in fact, in life, I believe that's what makes it all so worth it. You find your person, this could be your best friend, your brother or sister, your husband or wife.. regardless of who it is, you have accepted all the good and all the bad. You understand their flaws just as much as they understand yours. I think this is so important for us to understand. Nobody is perfect, I know that I am very far from it and with the grace of God, I make it through each day. As humans, we tend to find someone in life and if we like this person so much we place them on a pedestal. We place them right up there and we put on our glasses. These glasses are covered in the prettiest of roses and all we see is the beauty. This person may be manipulative, abusive, mean or just downright toxic to you, but somewhere along the line of building yall's relationship, the glasses came on and you saw past all the flaws. There is a huge difference between understanding people's tendency to mess up and make mistakss versus them not treating you the way you deserve to be treated .These glasses have this trick where occasionally you start see past all of it and realize something has to change, but then you fall back into the danger of rose colored glasses. Its extremely difficult to get past this, I'm not going to pretend that I have the answers of how to change this other than looking at your perspective. Realize your worth and how you should be treated, and I am talking about EVERYONE. I am not speaking on the terms of just a relationship with a boyfriend or girlfriend, I am saying that, the people you have in your life are that make up your life. Do you want to be happy? Surround yourself with those who are going to MAKE YOU HAPPY. Do you want to be successful? Surround yourself with those who are going to support you and push you to BE SUCCESSFUL. Do you want to be miserable or mistreated? I promise you that if you surround yourself with toxic people, then that is what will happen. I had to set rules for myself, I had to look at myself and truly decide on how I wanted to be treated. I prayed and continue to pray like crazy because having a 100 friends around you sounds fantastic until it isn't. One of my favorite sayings is, "I would rather have one dime, than a hundred pennies." Choosing yourself in these situations is not selfish, choosing what makes you better and what makes you happy is so important. This is your life and you have more control of it than you think do and you would be surprised how much better it gets when you remove toxic people from it. Continue to love them and to root for them, but just from a distance. Yes its very hard, just because they may be bad for doesn't mean you don't love or care for them, but like I said ... you have to chose yourself sometimes. You are a dime, so surround yourself with those who are going to push you forward, love you and support you. This is your journey and as cheesy as it sounds.. it is what you make it.

Side note-

Those who have loved me and supported me, THANK YOU, THANK YOU, THANK YOU. y'all are my rock, I pray for y'all and love y'all so much. My close ones, y'all have taught me the true meaning of how to be treated and I'll never accept anything less and I also will not let ya'll accept anything less. Y'all are my dimes, but y'all are worth everything to me.

Extra side note- The image representing this post is featuring my sweet friend Reagan because as of yesterday, she married her person!! The person who will grow with her, make her happy and support her. I am so proud of them!!