5 steps that will heal

I want to introduce to you all some of the steps I have taken to live my singleness to the fullest extent.

Yes, it is possible.

Yes, it is fun.

But, you have to start somewhere.

HEAL

What ever is in your past, it is essential that you take your time as a single women and heal. If that means healing from a bad breakup, from being mistreated, from being abused, from being lied to, left and lost, you have to face it all and heal your heart. There are many steps that you have to take in order to do this and I believe that if you follow all these guidance, that it will truly help you to find this healing.

1. DELETE

I mean it, delete. Delete the phone number, delete the pictures, delete the notes and just remove the reminders. I think of this in the sense of "think smarter, not harder." If you are struggling with letting someone or something go, then why make it harder on yourself by holding on to things you no longer need. That part of your life is over and there is no longer a need to hold on to something that is going to make your life hard. This is a situation, where you have to choose YOU.

2. Out with the old, in the with the new

This can be a fun part about healing! If you need to, and I recommend it, redo your room, your style, learn new recipes, maybe even dye your hair? I know that that sounds like such a cliche, but I will tell you.. IT FEELS SO GOOD. Get out of your old routine and solely create a new you. Become unrecognizable to the old you, the you who knew so much pain.

3. Be proud of YOU

Girl, You have been through pain and look at you. You are healing, you are seeking ways to make yourself better, you are still standing and getting up every morning. Yes, it may be hard and you may feel like you are not doing it gracefully, but that is not what matters. What matters is that each day that you create a new memories, new commitments and continue to move forward every day. Be proud of everything you are doing for you.

4. BE SINGLE

Actually be single, be okay with being alone. Something I really struggled with was simply doing things on my own.This meant I had to meet face to face with my thoughts and really analyze and accept what was going on. Take yourself to dinner, or a movie, come up with new recipes for yourself to enjoy. It is OKAY to be with yourself. I'm telling you, one day you will be married, you will have someone and instead of working on you, you will be working on y'all. So take this time now, and just be single.

5. SLOW DOWN

Enjoy it, enjoy this time in your life where it is all about you. This is your time to focus on what you want to do, focus on your life, your future. Build your bank account, get an education, create your identity. When I was in pain, all I wanted to do was stay busy. I thought, if I don't stop then it can't catch me. This was such a wrong way to go about things. God made me slow down and wow am I thankful, because it is in those slow moments that you find true healing.